See him the way God sees him.

“Confess to one another therefore your faults (your slips, your false steps, your offenses, your sins) and pray [also] for one another, that you may be healed and restored [to a spiritual tone of mind and heart]. The earnest (heartfelt, continued) prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working]” James 5:16, Amplified.

With all of the challenges my husband and I faced over the 21 years that we have been together, one reason I stayed with him was because I didn’t want to leave and someone else reap the benefits of all the prayers I have prayed for him. I knew God was going to transform his life, I just didn’t know when. I knew God would help him learn how to lead our family, but I didn’t know when. I knew God was going to show my husband how to be the man He called him to be, I just didn’t know how or when. I prayed for him more than I prayed for myself, and God has answered my prayers.

A trick of the enemy is to cause a woman to become so hardened in her heart towards a man that she no longer prays for him with compassion and faith. Her heart is so angry that her once humble and sweet prayers turn into a bitter venting session about what he is and is not doing.

For a real man to change, it requires the hand of God. No matter how good the sex is, how good the cooking is, how fine your body is, or how encouraging your words are in his ears, it takes the power of God’s Holy Spirit working in a man’s heart and mind to bring true change. It also requires your faith and your patience.

I believe that every man wants to be the man God created him to be, he just doesn’t know how. Keep praying and interceding for him in your alone time with God. Declare that he is a Psalms 112 man and other scriptures God leads you to declare over his life. He may be a good man, but God desires to make him into His man who He can use to fulfill His purpose and plan. God is no respecter of persons. What He has done for me and countless of others, He will do for you!

Prayer: Father God, thank you for ministering to my heart. I pray for the man you have given me. Way before he was mine, he belonged to you. You love him far more than I ever could. I ask that you cause him to see himself the way you see him. Open his heart to receive your love and your wisdom. Teach him how to lead our family. Help me to believe the truth of your Word and to be patient. Help me to be the wife he needs and to see him the way you see him. Make him into the man you destined him to be. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Read Romans 8:34; Hebrews 10:36

Recommended Resources: “The Power of a Praying Wife” by Stormie Omartian

Side note:

**Please Note** It is important to note that my husband already knew the Lord when we met, but was needing God’s help in learning how to lead his family well. The fact that he already had a relationship with God made it easier for me pray for him and then trust God to deal with his heart. If you are believing God to save your husband who doesn’t know Jesus, it would be wise to not compare my situation with yours. If you are praying for a man who is unsaved, he could surrender his life to the Lord or reject Him and completely turn away. This is because God never overrides our will. If he doesn’t give his life to the Lord, it’s not because you are not praying hard enough. Even with your best efforts, my sister, understand that God has given us all the power to choose Him or reject Him. To my single sisters, please marry someone who knows the Lord and has a growing relationship with Him. This will save you lots of heartache and pain. 💛